Dreams, desires and ambitions

I had them once. Actually I still have the same dream and desire that haunts my mind no matter how unattainable it has become I just won’t let it go.
I bring this up because I watched a motivational speaker on a TED talk speak about giving yourself permission to dream of something better. She spoke on the idea that we allow ourselves to become stuck throughout our lives as we tell others and ourselves that everything is good or even worse the F word, FINE. Because we say it, we make it the reality by removing the motivation, since good and fine are completely acceptable states of being. I think though we also tend to see past results and correlate them to future expectations; I tried to do A and B happened so if I try to do C then B will happen. Now if B is substantially negative then it becomes a fear.
So if our dreams, desires and ambitions are good things that we want to move towards we have to have motivation to move from where we are currently. We have to first give ourselves permission to move in that direction. Then we have to convince ourselves we really are not happy with our current situation so that we are motivated to act on what we have given ourselves permission to accomplish. Finally we have to encounter and overcome our fears and that is where I lose it with motivational gurus.
Here is the problem, often times motivational speakers tend to be like star athletes; they are outliers. People who really can’t explain how they do what they do, but we sure do like when they tell us a simple strategy. Hearing them or watching them play can be exhilarating and fills us with a hope and energy. That energy and hope can help us move past where we are currently unless we have allowed ourselves to be consumed by fear of trying. Then what? I don’t have a clue.